Pregnancy Place

skip · Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 14 Location: Canada!

Hi swetp1977 and Dano!!

I just thought i would remind Swetp1977 that the point of this msg board is to offer judgement-free support for women who are struggling with similar issues. By you getting offended and calling young women "little girls" and accusing them of being naiev just because they differ in opinion from you, thats not too mature either....you dont know them. Im not one of these "little girls" but i do remember when i was and i think that regardless of their age, if u are as experienced as you sound then a little patients would go a long way.
As for Dano, i want to tell you that ur fears are valid and justified, dispite what others say. Its scary to be in this situation no matter what the circumstance. ALthough it is a long shot that u conceived that way, it is not impossible. I understand ur frustration because i got pregnant even though i used a condom and was on the pill...the odds of that are pretty slim as well..almost impossible, but it happend.
So right now all u can do is take care of urself and try not to let ur mind play tricks on you. Unfortunately all u can do now is play the waiting game. You can get pretty early preg tests these days, so hang in there, talk to your doctor and deal with the "what ifs" once u have more to go with.
take care and keep me posted!!
~skip

swetp1977 · Joined: 19 May 2005 Posts: 291 Location: Michigan

Oh honey let me tell you I am very mature and it is these little naive girls on here who at ages 13-16 want to be having sex and babies but don't know the first thing about how they can get pregnant. If that offends you then don't read it but hey I can't help it if the truth hurts...sorry it must have hit too close to home for you too. And you think there is a chance she can be pregnant by not even having intercourse...where are you getting your advise? We have asked more than one person who really think they know it all but as of yet no one has been able to back it up...so exactly where is your proof that she can be pregnant by not having sex? We would really like to read it!

skip · Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 14 Location: Canada!

The thing is, im not offended. I dont know any of you and none of you know me, so getting offended by strangers is pretty pointless.
All im saying is, yes, you do know more then these girls about these issues, but ur supose to! and its not their fault that they havent reached your level of experience yet. Most knowledge comes directly from experience, with time they will learn too. In the mean time all im saying is that if they dont take ur advice, then dont sweat it, just offer them some support.
And i never ever said that i have any type of proof for this girl being preg and i also never claimed to "knwo it all", all im saying is -never say never-because strange things have happend im sure.
I wanted her to know that even though theres not a lot of reason to worry, as a women i can try to relate to her at least being worried because even hearing just one source (reliable or unreliable) confirming ur worst fears, its hard not to let that bother you. I havent pushed advice on anyone in this forum . But maybe u can take a piece of ur own advice and if these girls bother u so much by debating and questioning what u say, then dont read it.
Anyway, no big deal, im just saying that i have been at the other end of some harsh critisisms when i was younger and at the times when i was screwing up the most and thinking the least logically, all you rally need is someone to show concern and listen to u vent. i jsut think that we should stick together, thers enough b.s to listen to out there from ppl who have no clue what its like to feel scared, unsure or sad. Thats something we all have in common here, we have all either gotten preg. at a young age, had a scare or lost a baby.

ps:this is not actual proof or anything but according to my obgyn (visit yesterday and brought this up) she said that although the chances of that happening are incredibly slim, if the material was think enough and he was rubbing around her a sperm could enter the vagina.that stuff breaks through condoms sometimes. Im not trying to scare you Dano, just letting u know that ur concerns are wroth being heard. Take care of urself and cross the bridges when u get to them! I hope to hear soon how things are going for you.

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skip